Anal sex has become conflated with the male gay or bisexual experience — so much so that the top-vs-bottom question is often the first talking point in Grindr chats. And so much so that people think you have to be into anal to be a gay or bi man just as they think you have to be a gay or bi man to be into anal. In fact, in a study of men who have sex with men — a study published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine in — less than 40 percent of respondents had engaged in anal intercourse during their last sexual event. To limit oneself to just a single flavor is to shut out a smorgasbord of new experiences. Two men deciding to have sex is just the beginning of the conversation about what happens next, as sex columnist Dan Savage has repeatedly argued.
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I never let a guys cum out. I can usually keep it in till my body absorbs it. Wow only ever fucked myself or with a dildo. Would love to bb and keep his cum inside me.
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From the author's note on this article , a first hand account of the realities of anal sex. Anal sex is always painful the first few times; as the passive partner, you are inevitably tense, nervous, and anxious. Yet, in the gay male community, this becomes all a part of the initiation ceremony; a rite into manhood usually performed by an older and more experienced male. Blood typically accompanies this practice; heightening the pseudo-occultist experience of blood-brotherhood; also, hence the extremely high rates of continuing HIV infections among gay males.
As a gay guy, there will probably come a time when a straight guy asks, confused, why you'd let another guy stick his dick in your bum. For anyone inexperienced in arseplay, getting fucked can sound painful and it's hard to imagine how it could be pleasurable at all. Those of you having a good time bending over for some D will know how it can get you harder than ever and have you shooting cum like crazy.